It’s All My Fault

As an adult in debt that is not related to absolute necessity (i.e. medical debt), I am fully aware that my debt is my fault. Not my parents’ fault because they didn’t tell me what to do with my money, not my school’s fault because proper financial education was not required, and not the big bad credit card companies’ fault for giving me credit when I was young and irresponsible. Mine.

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At the age of 18, we are officially declared adults. We can vote, smoke, have holes drilled into our bodies, and obtain credit with little to no income. I did all of these things. With this power comes great responsibility (thank you, Uncle Ben!). Adults are in charge of themselves. Therefore, whatever happens to them is directly influenced by the way they choose to live their lives.

Sallie Mae did not hide the fact that I would eventually owe the money I was borrowing back with interest. Neither did Visa. They gave me paperwork that laid this information out, and I signed it.

I am in a heap of debt. While it’s frustrating sometimes, the one thing I don’t do is play the victim. If you blame everything and everyone around you and do not take responsibility for your debt, you are essentially saying “I am not an adult. I am a child who ate too much candy and got a tummy ache.”

Grow. The. Fuck. Up.

If I may quote a movie (and I may because I’m the one writing this), “Stop feeling sorry for yourself. Okay, ‘cause I don’t associate with people who blame the world for their problems. Because you’re your problem Annie, and you’re also your solution.” If you don’t know which movie this came from, we probably can’t be friends. It’s not personal, I just really can’t associate with people who don’t watch awesome movies.

Own every decision you make in adulthood. You should be proud of and/or learn from every single thing you do. When I get mad about my HUGE amount of debt, it’s at myself. No one else spent that money for me. No one else over drafted my checking account like twenty times freshman year. No one else decided to max out my credit card buying spray paint. I did ALL of it and I own it. Because blaming it on someone else would be me waving the white flag to adulthood. It would be saying, “I can’t make my own decisions”. It would be the easy way out and I would lose all respect for myself.

So please, stop blaming:

Your parents

Your teachers

The economy

Marketers

Credit card companies

Banks

God/Allah/Buddha/Satan/Nature/Dave Ramsey/Me/Whomever or whatever the hell you believe in

You’re your problem. And you’re also your solution. Decide today to own your life.